Every time I give my child cereal, he gives it back to me all over the kitchen.Did I do something wrong? In my opinion you have done nothing wrong. However, your child may not like the consistency of the cereal. Here are 3 steps you can follow to increase cereal in your child’s eating.
1. Add 1 teaspoon of baby rice cereal to an ounce of formula in a small bowl. Keep in mind it will be very soupy, but your child will start to get the taste of the cereal. Make sure to let her finish the bowl or bottle.
2. Increase the amount of cereal by one teaspoon to one ounce of formula. This addition will change the consistency ever so slightly. Your child will probably drink less milk in the feedings after that.
3. Increase to three teaspoons of cereal to an ounce of formula (you can increase formula to achieve desired consistency).
There are so many stories around about disciplining a child that it makes your head spin just listening to them. People say while the baby is in utero and you should hear it cry, just slap your stomach as hard as you can and and the baby will stop. With moms and dads talking, singing and playing all kinds of music to their unborn child, I would suggest that they tell their baby to sleep through the night.
I believe that discipline is just a another word for control This happens the moment you bring that child home from the hospital. You must start self-discipline immediately. Getting the baby on a schedule that allows you to have time for yourself would be the very first sign of discipline for you and baby. During the first year, discipline only comes into play with regard to your child’s safety such as touching a light socket or constantly walks toward the street. It is more effective to remove the baby from an unsafe situation than to try to reshape his behavior. You will have plenty of time to discipline your child in the 2nd year and beyond, so do not worry about it in the 1st year. Enjoy the time spent with your baby!
Parents can try to change the aggressive behavior in their child so, here is a list that you can utilize to choose what is right for you and your child.
1. What should you do
Be firm with your son and let him know that every time he hits you or calls you a name, you will not remain in the same space until he is ready to treat you in a respectful manner. After you have told him once, you must be consistent in your follow through without using words. Your action to leave is loud and clear.
2. Hold your child in a loving but firm manner
A parent who is fearful that the child might destroy the home,break up things, or hurt him or her self, should try just sitting down and holding him/her in a very firm so that he cannot hit or kick, without you yelling, until the moment passes. Holding him/her close and rocking him gently may help to calm him more quickly.
3. Help him to share his feelings
Since you area model for your child, it be good of you to tell him “What you did really hurts. When ever you feel ready, an apology would make me feel a lot better.” By doing this you are showing respect for your feelings in a non threatening way.
4. Offer your child few choices
You can let your child know what he can do by offering him few or limited choices. Let him know that hitting and hurting others is not a good thing. You can go to your room and have your feelings in private,or stay here with me. Make sure that all the choices offered to him are both acceptable and respectful.
At times a child’s aggression and anger is not directed only at other children but adults as well. In some cases, preschoolers have learned to kick, hit bite, or pull the hair of their parents and caretaker when things do not go their way. I want you to know the little fists and feet can really hurt. Parents often do not know what to do with an aggressive child and may accidentally reinforce the behavior they are trying to change.
Here is a question posed to me by a parent:
My son is three years old. He calls me names and hits me when he does not get his way. I am thinking that he could have picked up that behavior at his daycare. As parents we have always used the most humane method to discipline him. We do not hit,yell at him or humiliate him in anyway. We always try to reason with him. Can you please tell me the best way to deal with this behavior?
I listened intently to the mom’s question and I gave her my opinion on the situation. Based on what was said,it is not likely that your son that behavior in daycare. Daycare exposes our child to more children and adults with whom he must share, sometimes he has to delay his demands, as he tries to create his right to territory. When he is at home he simply doubles his efforts to get his own way, and here the odds are more to his liking.
Parents can try several things to help their child change their aggressive behavior. A list will be discussed in our next session. Be sure to check it out. “Ways to change aggressive behavior”.
If your child should eat everything in your home like pet food, or cigarette pieces, it will most definitely comes out in the waste. Believe that you need to worry about plants that are harmful to children, medications that are in your household, and any form of gasoline product. You should have the poison control number in every room for emergency purposes. If your child should ingest kerosene or other gasoline products, it is best not to let the child vomit it up but to let it go through the intestinal tract instead so he child does not have to inhale it into their lungs. It is important to remember that all products are dangerous including the medications that are used for your child…all of it should be locked up away from your child. Babies are not childproof, so never trust or underestimate any child that is on the move.
Despite what parents may say about their child and their behaviors, attention- deficit-hyperactivity disorder(ADHD) is a very difficult disorder to diagnose during a child’s first year of life. Behavior that is exhibited in a three to five year old is normal for a baby. A baby’s attention span, at nine months is not very long, and the frustration level is just naturally greater in an infant or toddler, than it would be in an older child. I would have to say, that the disorder (ADHD) is difficult to detect during the first year of a child’s life.
I would encourage parents to read all the information they can about their suspicions with regard to any disorder.
Working with children you see a lot of things especially on the playground, backyard and just with family and friends. Playing with your child is a wonderful thing for parent and child to bond, but sometimes silly play can go way to far. Years ago I watched my neighbor missed his son Joe, on his way down from a playful throw. There was nothing wrong as long as he didn’t throw the child way above his head did not catch the child. It best to use wisdom and common sense whenever you are playing with your baby. Joe was fine! Always use caution when when you throw your child above your head.
When a parent is angry and frustrated with his or her child it is my opinion that he or she should not go near the child especially if you are lacking sleep. You could cause more harm than good to the situation because of your tiredness. These feelings are normal! However, when you feel that strongly about the child or situation, the best bet is to walk out of the child’s room for a few minutes to compose yourself as you calm down. I recommend that you never pick up or shake the child. Stay away from your child if you are feeling that frustrated.
These are my thoughts on this topic after working with both parent and child for many years.
Stay calm when working with your child(ren) to avoid pain and suffering later.
Over the years I have seen lots of children who were considered to be fat and I never heard a parent or grand parent say “Isn’t he or she just perfect?” The majority of parents and grandparents, all feel that babies are either too thin or too fat. You cannot please them so they pile on the food. Parents you can get information from your child’s pediatrician as to the national averages of height and weight for kids.Looking at the kids often will not give you what you need to see. It is best when a doctor recommends it. It is important to remember that constant harping on the child being too thin or too fat can contribute to eating issues later on in life.
You might be wondering what is too fat? I would have to say a baby who gains more than 2 pounds in a month. With such weight gain, this could lead to obesity later on in life. Babies that are extremely fat could grow into fat adults as a result of their eating habits and the genes they are born with. The gene factor you cannot control, but you most definitely can do something about what goes into your child’s body.
As a parent you are never crazy to wake your child to keep him or her on schedule. You maybe enjoying your day with a little peace and quiet, but waking your child helps both you and your child to stay on schedule. As a mom, it is better to know when he or she will wake up than to have to play catch-up. You may think that interrupting your child’s nap is necessary for your child, it really is a necessity for the mom to re-group. You are better off getting your baby on a schedule as early as possible so you will know when you can have some time off or alone time.