Parents with more than one child who is also going through sibling rivalry run the risk of two main draw backs: favoritism and comparison. I was always told never to compare my children because it would cause a rift between the family and the children I adhered to that line of thought but today, lots of parents compare their children and that is damaging and extremely demotivating for the people involved. So many times we as parents tend to put a lot of pressure to produce the same as their brother or sister. The intention of the parent is to get him or her to produce great things. However,it tends to turn them off. Parents must remember that all children are unique and different. Continuously comparing the children can leave damaging scars to their self-esteem and cause them not to want to do anything to help themselves. This can cause a break down in their relationship way into their adult life. Although it is natural for us to have different feelings for different children at different times, and the different ways we connect, school interests, if it creates a comparison culture and perceived favorites, the price will be a lower motivational level.
I believe that children could stay with a baby-sitter as soon as your doctor feels you are well enough to move about after a regular or C-section birth. It could be as long as one to two weeks at the most. It is a good thing for you and the baby to get out as soon as possible, because the longer you wait to make the break, the more difficult it will be. To test out the journey, you can seek the help of a trusting and caring family member or friend to sit with the baby for at least one hour while you go have a cup of coffee with a friend. Just that brief time away from the baby is just so very refreshing to you.
It is customary that when you leave your child with anyone, you must make sure that the know exactly where you are at all times, and does have the know how to call for 911 in an emergency. Make sure that the sitter knows
and have access to the baby’s pediatrician and telephone number. Knowing this information is crucial to saving lives. Also note your information must be readily available for contact should the need arises.
Leaving your baby with a sitter is not a bad thing as long as you follow your doctor’s orders when it comes to the initial start of separation.
Working with young children you encounter (experience) a lot of behaviors that parents do not know how to change or curb. A parent said ” my son bit me today, what can I do to stop it now that he is showing off his teeth”?
It has been said that the bite of a human is the most dangerous there is. So, please do not play with human bites be it child or adult. When it comes to care you must act aggressively. Keep in mind that hitting or biting back the child does no good at all. Even though you might feel the urge to react to the child, it is best wash out the child’s mouth with something that is not pleasant tasting. You will and must do this every times he/she bites you or anyone else. Be consistent in your action to reduce the biting. You must keep an eye on this situation in order to discourage this behavior. If it continues it could become a very serious problem. Why you ask? He is only going to get more teeth and eventually he will have a full set of teeth to continue practicing his biting skills.
The moment that you are informed or experience your child’s biting ,contact his pediatrician to get some form of help and guidance.
In our society today it is not an uncommon thing for children as well as a adults to start a task and never finish it. They feel that it is painful to do and the effort is just too much or it is just taking too long a time to complete. One way to motivate your child is by letting him do his or her work. Allowing the child to complete the job is the best way to keep your child motivated and functioning as he learns other valuable skills.
Here are a few ideas that you can utilize to help your child grow and remember that a task (job) is not completed until it is completed.
–Be truthful in your expectancy and detail. If you are seeking perfection, then you maybe over demanding,when the job is finished to the best of their ability.
–Be clear that what you are requesting is well understood with a final outcome image at completion.
–Finishing the job for your child is not an option. You are not permitted to assist him/her in any way.
You do not want to send the wrong message that he does not have to finish it because, mom will come behind me
to finish my work. You never want to him to think like that. He must always complete every job to the end.
To finish his work you run the risk of creating a negative habit in his mind that will encourage him not to complete his job. That is not good at all.
We have been keeping the motivational theme going to help parents find ways to motivate their children all year round now that summer is here. Within any home there are lots of chores to be done to keep the home running smoothly and with children expected to participate in completing chores, using a chore chart is a wonderful way to motivate the kids. With this chart you can place it any where in the house for all to see. This visibility will encourage the children to take responsibility for what they are responsible for, and chart their own progress without mom or dad having to shout at him/her. If the kids are older they can decorate the chart showing off their own unique style in art.
The chore chart is a great way get the kids to see daily, weekly or monthly chores and activities. The chart helps the kids to become focused and organized which can spill over into their school work.
As a parent I made it my business to instill a sense of responsibility into them, that will help develop an indelible motivation to always do the right thing. This responsibility will lead them to grow up to become successful individuals. To help children become responsible beings it would be a good thing to encourage them to place the nucleus of their attention on being respectful to others, do the right thing always as based on the norms of society; obey the rules and laws of the land in which he lives; be accountable for the behavior that you exhibit; remember to act appropriately for your age while working towards relying on your own efforts and capabilities.
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As children grow we observe and note that they learn differently. Even as adult we see that they learn differently as well. Some learning styles will be very motivating and others will be far less for your child. There are three dominant learning styles: visual, auditory and kinesthetic. These styles in the simplified form are seeing, hearing and doing.
1. Visual/Seeing. What is the best way your child learns? Reading a book or studying graphs? Or does your child appreciate the arts, attending live theatre, or just going to the movies? Does he/she likes a hard copy of written work from from his class? Does your child prefer to study his math tables using a chart or repeating them out loud over and over? Can he/she follow a path on a map? It has been said that people are visual learners and as a result, they feel more motivated when visual activities are incorporated in their school work. Your child’s teacher is well aware of the need to service her students with a range of activities that cover all learning styles however, you as a parent will find it extremely important to know his style as you focus on keeping him motivated.
2. Auditory/Hearing. Does your child enjoy the modern technological devices to listen to his books on tape or iPod? or is he a paper book reader? Does he love to hear your voice when you read to him different stories at night? When he is in school does your child prefer to spell his words out loud to the teacher during test time? A child who is an auditory learner is more motivated when listening skills or activities are included in their school work.
3. Kinesthetic/Doing. Children with kinesthetic learning style tends to be very hands on. He or she likes to make model toys. In his science class he is more motivated and highly engaged in the activity so, sitting down to watch is not an option. Teachers know that children with this learning style should always include practical hands on activities into their school work and day.
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As parents we want our children to achieve everything possible and beyond to have an enjoyable rich life. Here is a tip that you can implement immediately to help your child achieve his ultimate goal… and that is ways to “Motivate” him/her.
What are the most prominent sources of motivation: here are four possible sources of motivation that will qualify you to look at your child in light of the task he/she may be struggling with. When you are able to see your child’s strength from the four word list, you can then use that information to help him/her find his greatest strength. With your encouragement from the information your child will find a favorable outcome that he wants. Here are 4 issues that will help…
— Attentiveness: Once your child shows attentiveness (interest) he/she will apply himself more effectively if he is interested in the subject and if he sees value.
— Capability: When kids are good at something they will work very hard at it, This clearly adds to their enjoyment for the project. Take the time to always praise them and assure that they are capable of doing the job.
— Acknowledgement: Children will work harder and better when they can see a link between their success or failure to the amount of effort they put in. The kids will be able to see their hard work payoff and, if they should fail at the task they will know that it was not because he/she did not try.
–Goals: Motivation will be easier to locate if the knowledge they are seeking, or skill they are using, has a use in achieving at least one of their goals.
The word “motivate” is an action word also known as a verb. What do you do to get your child to move and do something? We are going to talk about motivating your child/children to do more despite how they might be struggling. Here is a very important tip you can use to help motivate your child to read. Reading is all encompassing and it open the doorway to knowledge. The sooner a child can read,and the more often they read, the faster they will increase their learning. Here are a few tips you can use to help motivate your child to be a better reader by becoming an independent reader.
— Schedule time everyday for reading.
— Have a wide selection of books for the kids to choose from, as you buy books for holidays and birthdays to increase the selection.
— Visit the library often and allow them roam the children’s section with ease.
— Encourage the children to borrow books from different genres–fiction, picture books, audio books, non-fiction.
— Buying games on line or in stores to help improve their intellectual skills –(You can teach them how to play scrabble). Investing time into your child’s early life will give you great harvest later on in his life.
Every new parent has someone to look up to once their child arrives into this realm. Many of the techniques that worked for your parents may not be applicable in our society today and yours may not be applicable ten (10) years from now or 20 years from now just as what is applicable today is different from 10 or 20 years ago.
The technological advances that have been made the advances in health care all have a tremendous influence on what is going to happen in the future. Take what you like from your parents’ techniques, and leave the rest. When your children are grown, they will say the same thing about the way you did things. Keep what works for you and let the rest go as you add to your parenting tool box daily.