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5 Things To Know If Your Child Has Special Needs

I live in a city where families with special needs can navigate the system though difficult and daunting at times.  That city is New York City.  So, to help you get through, here are 5 tips you can use to help as you venture out on your journey with your family.

Look At The Big Picture

  1. Address First Things First:  If you suspect that your child may have developmental delays, don’t hesitate to discuss the topic with your pediatrician.   He should be able to help you with referrals or help in scheduling an evaluation.

2.  Deep Breathe.  If your child does have delays and requires services such as physical therapy, speech or occupational therapy, say to yourself “it is going to get better”.  The city has  some of the best programs  to help children with developmental delays, do not start anticipating the worst about your situation.

3.  Your Child Is More Than The Diagnosis:  along with the diagnosis comes labeling, however do not lament over the label.   You will hear a litany of alphabet terms such as NOS, PDD, SPD, and ADHD.  Remember your child is still the same child he was last night  and the day before that.

4.  Stand Tall and Tell Yourself That You Are More Than Your Child’s Diagnosis:  If your child’s delays or special needs requires several  therapies, it’s very easy to let them take over your life.  Set aside time for yourself–even 8-10 minutes daily.  Do not forget the rest of the family.

5.  Don’t Refuse Help: It takes a village to raise any child, however it may take a larger village to raise yours.  Please accept offers of help from family members, friends, neighbors and your grandparents.    Some parents panic when they have to leave their special needs child with anyone and their lives become disrupted and restricted.  Do not let this happen to you.

More tips to follow on  this topic.

How To Find The Cause Of Your Child’s Wetting As You Help Him Stay Dry

It is true that some children who for a long time have been staying dry during the day may begin to wet their pants.  Others never have been completely dry and may occasionally or even frequently have daytime accidents.   Here are some suggestions that may help you find the cause of  your child’s wetting as well as help you in helping your child to stay dry.

1.  If your child is having daytime wetting accidents after several months  of staying dry, be sure to take him/her to your doctor to rule out any physical problem.

2.  If your child has never been completely dry during the day, he/she may not be ready  for toilet training until they are 2 and 2 1/2 years.  If you think your child may be too young, so, wait a few months before  trying again.

If your child has developed mental delays, it is likely that he/she will not be ready  for toilet training until a later age.  It is best to consult with your child’s doctor about when would be a great time to begin toilet training.

3.   If you are certain that your child is not too young and that there are no physical reasons for wetting, try to think if there is anything upsetting your child.   Is there too much pressure to stay dry?  Have there been major changes in the family?

4.  If you feel there is too much pressure on your child, try to relax and take the pressure off by not talking about staying dry.  If necessary, allow your child to wear diapers without saying anything negative about it.

5.  Avoid giving too much attention to the accidents.  Help your child change his/her pants, saying little and staying calm.  Don’t scold or punish.

6.  When possible, have your child put the wet pants in the laundry him/herself and find a pair of clean, dry ones.

7.  Notice it when your child manages to stay dry during the day.  A simple “You kept dry all day”, and a hug are enough.  Be careful not to make too big a fuss, however.

8.  Above all, try not to be too worried about daytime accidents.  In most cases, the sooner you can relax, the easier it will be for your child to remain dry.

Please use and share these tips to help other parents who might be going through the same problem.