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What Details Are In Knowing If Your Child Has Special Needs

You have already answered the the question “Does Your Child Have Special Needs”? Now You need to know about the details in the process.

Once your child has been diagnosed you need to get as much information as possible and then do the following 5 steps to keep you on tract:

1.  Organize the information.  You will be given a lot of information to keep track of, such as your child’s evaluations, insurance claims and reports.  You should start with a large loose leaf book binder and write down everything, including records and details discussed during phone contact.

2.  Decrease the difficulty of awkward things around.  You could log lots and lots of miles just taking your child from therapy to therapy.  Do your best to schedule your appointments at convenient times and locations, as you keep your child’s nap time and his other routines into consideration.  Plan out your weekly schedule, and keep the therapists’  addresses and phone numbers within easy reach.

3.   Give respect to the therapist that is assigned to your child.  You are a busy mom, but in actuality the therapists are more busy than you.  If you need to cancel a session give them ample notice.  Be appreciative for the work they do for your child and the family.  Every professional needs to be appreciated.

4.    Be careful as you research information on the internet.  Lots of misinformation is out there so be very careful what you read.  You may read about conditions that are more serious than yours, such as autism.  Watch what you say, and be sure to respect other people’s point of view.  Keep in mind that tempers could become heated.

5.   Add a book or two to your library to help guide you.  I strongly suggest this book for newly diagnosed parents  “The Elephant in the Playroom: This about everyday people like you writing about their true feelings  about raising children with Special Needs”.  For the really tough days  read this one “Shut Up About Your Perfect Kid: This is a Guide for Ordinary Parents who have Special  Children”.

The next area to look at will be  Resources.

5 Things To Know If Your Child Has Special Needs

I live in a city where families with special needs can navigate the system though difficult and daunting at times.  That city is New York City.  So, to help you get through, here are 5 tips you can use to help as you venture out on your journey with your family.

Look At The Big Picture

  1. Address First Things First:  If you suspect that your child may have developmental delays, don’t hesitate to discuss the topic with your pediatrician.   He should be able to help you with referrals or help in scheduling an evaluation.

2.  Deep Breathe.  If your child does have delays and requires services such as physical therapy, speech or occupational therapy, say to yourself “it is going to get better”.  The city has  some of the best programs  to help children with developmental delays, do not start anticipating the worst about your situation.

3.  Your Child Is More Than The Diagnosis:  along with the diagnosis comes labeling, however do not lament over the label.   You will hear a litany of alphabet terms such as NOS, PDD, SPD, and ADHD.  Remember your child is still the same child he was last night  and the day before that.

4.  Stand Tall and Tell Yourself That You Are More Than Your Child’s Diagnosis:  If your child’s delays or special needs requires several  therapies, it’s very easy to let them take over your life.  Set aside time for yourself–even 8-10 minutes daily.  Do not forget the rest of the family.

5.  Don’t Refuse Help: It takes a village to raise any child, however it may take a larger village to raise yours.  Please accept offers of help from family members, friends, neighbors and your grandparents.    Some parents panic when they have to leave their special needs child with anyone and their lives become disrupted and restricted.  Do not let this happen to you.

More tips to follow on  this topic.

Do You Dump Your Anger And FrustrationOn Your Kids?

Today I saw the most horrible thing ever, a parent who was angry, frustrated, or just overwhelmed went off on one of her children in a public setting where everyone could see and hear.  I could not take it so, I rushed in to offer some assistance.  She had two special needs children and one was just tantruming for a good period of time.  This pushed  mom over the edge.

I took the mother out of the situation by speaking to her in a calm tone  as we walked just a few yards from the situation.  When asked “what happened to her”?  Her response was “I am stressed”!  I asked if there was anyone I could call to help her with the children?  Her response was “no”.

I told her that I cannot let her go back to the children just yet because she was crying all over the place.   My assistant helped with the children by playing with them and getting them something to eat.  They were happy as can be.

When a parent is upset or stressed , do not take it out on your children.  It makes things worse all around.  I asked her if she had any support at home and she said “no” again.  She needed some form of respite to help her gain her sanity back.

I said to her that I normally work with parents who are in this very situation, but I had no availability.  However, I could not walk away from this mom who needed help  immediately so, I made room for her  that very moment.

Here are three tips to consider before try dumping on your children:

1. Seek help  of your community, schools, social worker, district office, church pastor or neighbors  before you get to the boiling point.

2.  Have a support system in place so that when your call comes in, there is no need for questions.

3. Your state should have agencies to help parents with special needs children get a break or (respite) on a regular basis.  It is a given… Use it often if you wish to keep your sanity.

Hope that this help you today.  Leave your comments below.

Should Parents Sing to Their Children?

I  recently over heard two women talking about children and singing.  One mom said “my 2 year old covers her ears every time I try to sing to her,” is something wrong with her?  I hung around to hear the other mom’s response to the question.

Some parents love to sing to their children and I believe in it but, sometimes the parent’s  pitch might be a little high which would cause the child and the dog to cover their ears.  It does not mean that  the mom can’t sing, she might just need to tone the sound down a little bit.

The child’s mom asked the other mom do you sing to your children?  “yes”  during play time and when it is time to sleep.  Try it and see if it works for you ,or you can  tape your voice and play it when he is ready to fall off to sleep.  You can also search the internet for music to calm your child or motivate him.

Parents, singing to your children it creates a bond to assist in his overall skill development (communication, speech).

Singing helps the children to develop their:

gross motor skills

cognitive skills

sound articulation

speech improvement

social integration

I find that singing songs and rhymes help to motivate, stimulate and activate the cognitive parts of the brain and at the same time the children are exhibiting fun behaviors.

The children may not be able to fully say the ABC letters, but are able to make gestures and movement through imitation.  All of these skills are necessary when working with children that are disabled or have autism.    

Parents, sing to your children on a daily basis to help improve their speech, physical and social development.

Take a look at the link below to help with singing to your children.  Have fun as you imitate the movements.


Tools to Work With Special Needs Children

Parents, have you ever wondered where you could find tools for your child with special needs… especially on cold wintry day ?  In doing a little research I discovered a few that would benefit every parent with a special needs child and autism.  The sites offer printable material,  for immediate use  both at home and at school with the teacher’s guidance.    Check out the sites below.